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May 2008
Happy Belated Mothers Day! 


A hot, steamy bath is my idea of heaven. And buying scented bath bombs and shower gels is one of my favorite things to do. Yet on many gift giving holidays dear hubby goes to an upscale, heavy on the packaging, bath shop to select my goodies, while I prefer a gift certificate to a more trendy shop with environmentally conscious wrap and a huge selection. 


This year I became proactive and announced that I had signed up for a sewing DearSonclass for my Mother's Day gift. Hubby was no doubt relieved, but later my son took me aside and told me not to worry, he'd make sure I'd still get my gift certificate!


Mother's Day came early in our household via an eleven year old who knows his mother's heart.


Celebrate motherhood year round by joining API.  Please go here to learn more.

Carla MoquinBring That Baby To Work! 
by Carla Moquin

One day while doing research on topics for freelance articles to supplement my income as an effectively-single mother, I came across a recent news article about a company that allowed babies at work.  I had to return to work when both my children were only 4 weeks old, so I knew firsthand just how difficult early mother-baby separation could be.  I called the company for quotes and learned that they had based their program on one implemented at a similar company.

My article turned into a book as I kept finding more baby-friendly companies.  I kept hearing the same comments from companies with structured guidelines; the benefits were consistent, the babies were overwhelmingly happy, and a community-parenting dynamic occurred in all of them.  I began to realize that awareness of this phenomenon had the potential to transform our society.  I didn't want to wait to get a book published, so I created the Babies in the Workplace web site and recently founded a non-profit.

The Parenting in the Workplace Institute promotes baby-friendly workplace programs. We have identified more than 80 organizations in which employees can bring their babies to work every day, generally until the babies begin to crawl.  Babies at work tend to be overwhelmingly content, primarily because their needs are met quickly and they are held much of the time by parents and coworkers.  Mothers who take their babies to work are more likely to continue breastfeeding, and nursing on cue also keeps the babies happy and healthy.

The Institute is devoted to expanding the adoption of these baby programs as well as explaining and promoting the attachment-care principles that lead to success for businesses and for babies. If you know of an organization currently allowing babies in the workplace or if you wish to implement a baby program, please contact me or phone me at (801) 897-8702.

Thank you Carla for all the effort you put into making this happen for the parents of newborns.  We wish you great success in your endeavor!
Wise Words 

"To describe my mother would be to write about a hurricane in its perfect power."


-- Maya Angelou

JamesMcKennaWhat are the long term effects on my baby of sharing a bed?
Dr. James McKenna, Director of the Mother-Baby Behavioral Sleep Lab responds:

While advocates of solitary infant sleeping arrangements have claimed any number of benefits of infant sleeping alone, the truth of the matter is, none of these supposed benefits have been shown to be true through scientific studies. The great irony is that, not only have benefits of solitary infant sleep NOT be demonstrated - simply assumed to be true, but recent studies are beginning to show the opposite that is, it is not, for example, solitary sleeping arrangements that produce strong independence, social competence, feeling of high self esteem, good comportment by children in school, ability to handle stress, strong gender or sex identities - but it is social or cosleeping patterns that might, indeed, contribute to the emergence of these characteristics.

Please go here for rest of this article.
Co-sleeping in Hotels
One of our Group Leaders answers a question from her group
Q:  I'm looking for tips on co-sleeping with an almost two year old while traveling with one parent. I've asked the hotels if they would put a mattress on the floor, but they won't do this.

Any suggestions or resources?


A: Thanks for your question and desire to explore safe methods of co-sleeping while traveling.  Here are a few ideas which we hope will be useful:

  • Ask the hotel for a king-sized bed.  You can sleep on one side and your child in the middle.  You could put some firm cushions on the other side of the bed to prevent your child from rolling off. 
  • You could ask the hotel if they can position the bed against the wall, or have a room with the bed already against the wall. You could put cushions or pillows between the bed and the wall.
  • If you are going to be staying for a length of time, and have a bed rail that you can bring, you could bring that with you. If you are flying not driving on your trip, this might not be practical.

Many thanks to Joan DeMeyer, co-leader, API of St. Louis for this Q&A

In The News

Our own Dr. Bob was in the news again, Bob Searsthis time defending co-sleeping.

Quote from the LA Times:

Dr. Bob Sears, an Orange County pediatrician who co-wrote "The Baby Sleep Book," said some co-sleeping can be unsafe, but disagreed with the blanket statement that the practice is unsafe all the time.

"So many babies sleep so much better nestled up to a parent that many parents are doing it to get a better night's sleep," he said. "Parents aren't going to stop doing it just because the government tells them what kind of parent they should be." Click LA Times Story to read the rest.

API teaches parents how to safely co-sleep and supports the principle of Nighttime Parenting.  Please click here to learn more about safe co-sleeping practices.

Also in the news-
This month, two organizations released studies that touted the benefits of breastfeeding. The first, a literature review by the Foundation for the Study of Infant Death, based in London, found that there is significant evidence that breastfeeding reduces the risk of SIDS. The review found that "babies who were at least partly breastfed were one-third less likely to die as a cot death [SIDS] than babies who were never breastfed."

In a second study, researchers in Canada and Belarus classified 14,000 infants into two groups: one whose mothers received breastfeeding encouragement from medical professionals and one whose mothers did not receive any special encouragement. The study found that mothers who were encouraged to breastfeed not only nursed longer, but their children benefited from a 5% increase in IQ and performed better academically. Although other studies have shown a link between increase in intelligence and breastfeeding, this is the first study that eliminated socio-economic and educational factors from the study group.

For more information on these studies, visit API's News page . For more information about the benefits of breastfeeding, see Feed with Love and Respect from The Eight Principles of Attachment Parenting.

Father's Day Dedications 


Do you have or know of someone who is a special father?


Remember and honor every special man in your life by sending API's exclusive gift packages including customizable, published dedications. 


We have some really special gift packages in which you can do just that! Please go here to API's online store and look for the gift packages in the Merchandise section. If you order your dedication by June 2nd your honoree will be listed in the June edition of API Links!


Check our Father's Day page at the beginning of June to see your dedication listed!

BabyissueAnd In The Next Issue of the Journal...
Look for the annual New Baby issue in your mailboxes -- and inboxes -- this month. If you like what you read, or want to make a suggestion, feel free to contact the editor Rita Brhel.
The next issue of The Journal of API, focusing on practicing Attachment Parenting in a non-Attachment Parenting world, is already in the works and due in your hands in July. Inside, you'll read encouraging articles to help you continue to strive toward embracing the Eight Principles of Attachment Parenting -- as well as a sneak preview of the API Co-founders' book to be released later this year. To ensure receiving this copy of the Journal in postal or electronic format, join API today!
We're also beginning to work on our last two issues of 2008, one centered on children ages 5-18 and one focused on the difficulties of learning to attachment parent when we may not have the fortune of growing up attached. We are currently accepting articles from parents, API Leaders, and professionals -- experienced and beginning writers -- for these issues. For more information, contact the editor.

We also have some great advertising and sponsorship opportunities for both API Links and The Journal of API. If you're interested in advertising in The Journal of API, please contact API's Advertising Manager Melissa Corbett.


apibrochure New API Brochures Available

Help API spread the word about its new offerings, from the online Forum to the Parent Education Program, with a new brochure available through the API Web site.


Click here to see a sample of the full-color, glossy, and information-packed handout that would be great for your next Support Group meeting, parenting conference, or to give out anywhere local where families frequently visit.

Help vintageadWanted


Graphic Artist with Background in Web Design

API is in need of a graphic artist with a background in web design to help with images for the web site and other promotional materials. Tasks are typically given in small chunks and include creation of animated web banners, basic photo manipulation, ad layout, and button creation.

If you're interested, please contact Julie Artz, Technology Manager.

Event Coordinator

Do you have a passion for coordinating and organizing events? If you are interested in the variety of events that API would like to put together in 2008-2009 then we'd love to talk to YOU! Please email Art Yuen.

For other team positions go here.



Benefits of Individual / Family Membership, which is $35 per year, include:

  • Four issues of Attachment Parenting: The Journal of API
  • Membership in local parent support group (mention your local group when you join and $15 of your membership will be retained for use in your local community)
  • Discounts and early registration for API conferences and other select events
  • A chance to share your passion; opportunity to become an API leader, start a new support group, or donate your skills to the API Headquarters Team


Professional membership at $75 per year is recommended for individuals who promote AP through their professional endeavors. Membership is open to anyone whose job impacts the physical, psychological, or emotional health of children and families.


Benefits include:

  • All Individual/Family Membership Benefits as listed above
  • 1 hardback copy of The Successful Child by Dr. William Sears and Martha Sears, RN (while supplies last)
  • 3 copies (1 personal, 2 outreach) of API's quarterly publication, The Journal of API
  • Complimentary professional listing in the API AP-friendly Professionals section
  • Invitation to join online discussion forum of like-minded professionals
  • Opportunity to purchase 25 additional copies of each issue of The Journal of API for only $100 per year
  • Access to professional brochures and materials, as they become available

The AP-Friendly Professionals program at $225 per year is to facilitate the collaboration of professionals who promote Attachment Parenting through their work. It allows API to develop a network of individuals, professionals, and organizations to whom we can refer members and request support for API projects. API recommends the AP-Friendly Professionals Program to individuals who promote Attachment Parenting in their professional endeavors. AP-Friendly Professionals commit to supporting API and promoting The Eight Principles of Attachment Parenting.


Benefits include:

  • All API Professional Membership benefits as listed above
  • Complimentary and priority Web site listing on the AP-friendly Professionals page
  • Special invitation to professional events hosted by API or our partners
  • Invitation to join the online discussion forum for AP-friendly Professionals only in which our founders, Board of Directors, and/ or Advisory Board will moderate for specified amount of time
  • Invitation to have your AP-friendly content featured in API publications including API Links, The Journal of API, or API's FAQs
  • AP-friendly logo for use on business cards and in other advertising
  • 5% discount on advertising in API publications and API Web site

Join API Today!

 BillyDeanCome See Billy Dean

Friday, June 27, 2008, 7:00 pm - Billy Dean & Friends Benefit Concert at the Von Braun Center, Huntsville, Alabama

API is happy to present the very talented Grammy Award winning Recording Artist and Songwriter Billy Dean (Somewhere in My Broken Heart, Let them Be Little)!

Please click here to learn more!
Book of the Month Club Selection for JuneNeufeldBook:
Hold On to Your Kids by Gordon Neufeld.
To participate in lively and insightful discussions on our new book, please go here.
Do you or your friends annually give to a charity? If so, please make API your charity for this year!


Do you like to give meaningful and heartfelt gifts to family and friends? If so, then please consider giving gift memberships to API!


Does your employer or your spouse's employer match contributions? If so, how about signing up with API as your matching gift fund!


Please consider how you might make a difference... our children and yours will reap the benefits. Please send in your donations to: Stephanie Petters.


Attachment Parenting International

PO Box 4615
Alpharetta, GA 30023


Mailing your donation ensures 100% goes to API - PayPal takes their fee from all online donations.  To donate online please go here.

In This Issue
*Bring That Baby to Work!
*Wise Words
*Bed Sharing
*Cosleeping While Travelling
*In the News
*Father's Day Dedications
*In The Next Issue
*New API Brochures
*Help Wanted
*Please donate
*Billy Dean Benefit Concert
*Book Club Selection
*Make API Your Charity
We Honor the Following  Special Mothers

Amy Altman


Marjie Altman


Renee Besecker


Avril Dannenbaum


Deborah Gooch


Myra Gray


Katina Hester


Reedy Hickey


Michelle McDonald


Corrina Milito


Oma Nance


Barbara Nicholson




Angie Patterson


Daniela Petters


Kathye Petters-Armitage


Grammy Wicker


Founders of API

API Board of Directors

API Staff

API Leaders

API Advisory Board

API Resource Advisory Council

API Members


To see your Mother's Day dedications please click on the link. There is still time to order a dedication for your special mother before the month is out. We'll send them a specialized email taking them to their online dedication!

To order your dedication, please visit our API store

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butterfly/hummingbirdDear Reader,
As ever, I hope you enjoyed this issue of APILinks! 
We have gone through many changes in the past few issues and I'm hoping that you will take a moment from your busy schedules to let me know how you feel.
If you have questions, comments, or suggestions about this eNewsletter, please contact me.


Avril Dannenbaum, Editor
Kelley Francis, Copy Editor

Attachment Parenting International
web: http://www.attachmentparenting.org
Attachment Parenting International
P.O. Box 4615
Alpharetta, Georgia 30032
(800) 850-8320 - phone and fax