Before I became a mom, I used to hear parents talk about the “terrible twos,” and honestly, I had no idea what they were talking about.
Now that my baby is almost 2, I get it. There are moments when her tantrums completely overwhelm me. There are times when I honestly don’t know what to do.
My gut reaction is often to feel annoyed when my son says "I can't," and I have to remember to take a moment before responding. I take a couple extra breaths and remind myself that what my son is feeling is normal. Adults do the same thing! When a woman is in labor, it's common to hear her say, "I can't do this anymore!" and for her support person to respond, "but you're already doing it!"
We all feel like we can't sometimes. Is it more helpful to hear someone respond exasperatedly or with an offer to help?
It seems too good to be true, but there are ways to reduce power struggles with our children without sacrificing respect, limits or your child's confidence.
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Right now, the custom of hanging out with friends is new to both my daughter and me. I have to find new ways of relating with Elia and setting boundaries to protect family time while respecting her time with friends and nurturing her growing self-autonomy.
What are the milestones and transition points your family has celebrated this month?
I have a new baby in my family. He is now 17 months old. My last baby was born 10 years earlier. The baby before this baby was born two years prior to my second. My older children are ages 11 and 13.
How do you follow your child's lead in your parenting?
My 5-year-old is happy as long as she's around me. As a baby, she would spend all day content in a sling that I wore.
In what way is your child lovingly unique? How can you let your child know you love and appreciate him or her?
How often are you off in another world when you are with your child? We all struggle to give our children enjoyable, undivided time together with us.
Let's begin by taking a deep breath.
My nearly 3-year-old daughter knows what she wants and wants it "right now, Mama, right now!" She has also been involved in some "push and shove" dialogues with other children. The immediacy of her needs is expressed verbally with as much drama and whine as she can muster and is occasionally punctuated with a push or kick, especially when the other person isn't doing what she wants.
How do you help your child resolve a playdate misunderstanding?
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When have you shared time together with your child today?
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