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March/April/May 2014 Read

Our March/April/May online book discussion will be Giving the Love That Heals: A Guide for Parents by Harville Hendrix, Ph.D and Helen LaKelly Hunt, Ph.D. To join the discussion, please click here to be taken to the GoodReads website. Our reading timeline will be as follows:

March 1-8: Chapters 1 & 2

March 8-15: Chapters 3 & 4

March 15-22: Chapters 5

March 22-29: Chapters 6

March 29-Apr 5: Chapters 7

Apr 5-12: Chapters 8

Apr 12-19: Chapters 9

Apr 19-26: Chapter 10

Apr 26-May 3: Chapter 11

May 3-10: Chapter 12

May 10-17: Chapter 13

May 17-24: Chapter 14

May 24-31: Chapter 15 & Wrap-Up

The sections headings for this book are listed below:

Section I - Connection

1. The World of Connections

2. The Imago Family

Section II - Rupture of Connection

3. The Unconscious Parent

4. The Child as a Teacher

Section III - Restoration of Connection

5. Intentional Dialogue

6. The Conscious Parent

7. Growing Yourself Up

Section IV - Discover Your Child - The Conscious Parent’s Pledge

8. The Stage of Attachment

9. The Stage of Exploration

10. The Stage of Identity

11. The Stage of Competence

12. The Stage of Concern

13. The Stage of Intimacy

Section V - Creation of a New Legacy

14. The Possibilities for a Conscious Future

Section VI - Tools for Conscious Parenting

15. Changing Knowledge into Action


Book Description from

Harville Hendrix has illuminated the paths to healthy, loving relationships in his New York Timesbestsellers Getting the Love You Want and Keeping the Love You Find. Now, with his coauthor and wife, Helen Hunt, he brings us to a new understanding of the most profound love of all -- by helping parents nurture their own development as they encourage emotional wholeness in their children.

This groundbreaking book offers a unique opportunity for personal transformation: by resolving issues that originated in our own childhood, we can achieve a conscious, and thus healthier, relationship with our children, regardless of their age. Harville Hendrix and Helen Hunt help us explore:

  • The Imago -- the fantasy partner that our unconscious mind constructs from those we loved as a child, a that has guided our search for a life partner

  • Maximizer and Minimizer parents -- the defensive styles that internally shape what we say and how interact with our children

  • A Parenting Process that helps to end the "cycle of wounding" -- the handing-down of wounding we received as children -- as we raise our own children

  • Safety, Support, and Structure -- how to give children what they really need from us

  • Modeling Adulthood -- using our healed sense of self as a model for our children.

With other practical, insightful approaches that can powerfully shape the parent-child bond, Giving the Love that Heals gives us the keys to helping our children to become healthy, responsible, and caring people.

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